Sometimes you have to Start Again
The secret to success is consistency. It’s doing the right things day after day, no matter what. We know this. If we work everyday and keep building from one success to the next, then we will gradually build momentum towards that long term vision of success.
But what if you can’t be consistent?
I mean, what if you’re like me and you find yourself in the mud, with all your little projects stalled?
Well then I guess you just have to get better at consistently starting again.
Why do we always have to fail?
Now, I’m sure it’s not just me. I’m sure you all have your own stories where things haven’t quite gone right. Maybe the weight loss, the career promotion, monetary goals, social ambitions … Whatever your goal, I have no doubt, you, like me, have fallen off at some stage and lost track of the goal.
We’ve subconsciously sabotaged ourselves, we’ve gotten angry, kicked the wall, been fed up, taken a break or just totally given up. To some degree or another. And I guess the answer is that consistency is hard. Failing is natural. Especially when we are trying to become better or reach a higher version of ourselves. That kind of thing always puts pressure on us and we, as humans, don’t like pressure.
I guess that’s why consistency is so hard. It feels like work. It feels stressful.
There’s no need to bore you with personal stories. As I said, we all have a story. And I know your story is far more important than mine. And I know, as sure as day follows night, if you’re pushing yourself to go to a higher lever, well sooner or later, you will have this same kind of feeling. Like everything has stalled and you need to start again.
So how do we start again?
Here’s a few ideas:
1. The inspiration comes from the big ideas, and lots of ideas, not from laying one brick at a time.
For me at least, when I start a big project I like to dream big. I like to imagine awesome, amazing, thrilling big pictures of great stuff.
That’s what gives you the juice.
Imagine the football team that starts the season just hoping to move from 14 to 13 — where’s the inspiration? where’s the motivation? I bet that team doesn’t have a great season. And that starts right on day one. But even worst, what happens when things go bad at day 30, 40 or 50. Do they get all inspired to go again? No, they say stuff it, 13, 14, 15 or whatever, it’s all the same.
No, if you want the juice to get started and to keep going with gusto, you have to have the big beautiful goal in front of you. You have to start the season with ‘we’re gonna win like no one’s ever won before’ and just imagine the champagne corks popping and the cheering fans. Then when you have the fall off, you come back to that big beautiful image and you may well reset the time line, but you get going again.
There’s the solution to starting again.
Have a big, massive, beautiful image of where you want to get to and keep it in your mind as long as you can.
2. Striving for more is pressure, but pressure can be a good thing.
Pressure is normal. And when what you’re trying to do is something big and important, then there’s going to be pressure. However, we as humans don’t like pressure. When we feel pressure that ancient instinct kicks in and we hear the sabretooth tiger just around the corner. We tuck tale and run. Well now days, we tend to bury our head in a can, or the tube, or something comfy and we decide to settle and enjoy what we have.
Pressure like that has a whole lot of power!
Well, then why don’t we turn it around and use that force to start again.
How do you use that kind of pressure?
You hold yourself accountable. You remember that you dreamt of an awesome life. And if you dreamt it, it means you can have it. But you won’t get it if your lazy.
You dreamt of what would be capable if you really lived life to the full. You imagined how far you could go if you challenged yourself to be awesome. You fantasized about the wonderful things you wanted to do for your family, friends and the people who need you.
Well you don’t get all that amazing stuff by settling and being normal.
No, if you want amazing you know you need to be amazing.
You are amazing, so don’t just settle. Go get your slice of the dream life. Get up, get motivated and start again.
A long time ago I forced myself to imagine the life I really want to enjoy. And so while I’m enjoying life now, I’m feeling the guilt that if I don’t start going for the next level, I’ll never get to see all the amazing stuff I’m capable of.
In short, I feel the guilt of letting myself down.
Now I know it’s time to start again.
3. Failure is a natural part of life, but you don’t need to accept it.
We have to accept that failure is natural. No one is perfect. We are trying for something better than we currently are, it’s natural to fail. So, I guess being consistent is not my super power — I failed.
I hate failure!
We all hate failing.
We fear it and when we feel it we want to run and hide. But that’s not going to get you what you want. You don’t have to accept it. You need to stand strong and look at failure for what it is. It means you need to become better if you want to win. That’s it! So, toughen up and say ‘I choose to fight’. ‘I choose to win’.
Failure sucks and it hurts. But that’s not there to make you turn and run. It hurts so you fight back and overcome.
Now, that fight might take you years and you might need to go the long way around, call a friend, create a weapon … do whatever. But you can choose not to fail.
Failure is simply a lesson. For me I need to learn the lesson and work at being more consistent. This I have always heard is the key to success — those that fail but keep going get there — so I’m starting again.
Life is best when we are becoming something better — that sense of growth and fulfillment beats any ‘good time’ superficial automatic rush. Improvement builds to lasting joy.
But it’s not easy being consistent.
How do you do it?
- You set yourself a massive goal, so you want it so bad you can taste it.
2. You create the right kind of pressure, by holding yourself accountable to the great things you want.
3. You learn to fail and fail consistently better.
So I failed, but I’m back. I’m learning the habits to be more consistent. I’m sure I’ll probably fail a few times more. But when I get there, I’ll finally be worthy of a greater life, a greater prize than I have right now.
Become the you that deserves more! That’s the path to success😊